{"id":187,"date":"2011-01-27T17:46:16","date_gmt":"2011-01-27T22:46:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.attachedthebook.com\/?p=187"},"modified":"2011-01-27T17:46:38","modified_gmt":"2011-01-27T22:46:38","slug":"attached-reader-question-3-what-about-attachment-styles-and-friendship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.attachedthebook.com\/wordpress\/2011\/01\/attached-reader-question-3-what-about-attachment-styles-and-friendship\/","title":{"rendered":"Attached-Reader Question 3: What About Attachment Styles and Friendship?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Studies that have looked into attachment styles and friendship have made a variety of findings, for example:
\nPeople with a secure attachment style are more likely to seek social support when they’re stressed; they also perceive themselves as having more available support.\u00a0 Avoidants, on the other hand, are more likely to distance themselves under stressful conditions.\u00a0 Other findings: Secures reported less conflict with friends, better conflict resolution and more satisfaction in their relationships with friends.<\/p>\n

But more down to earth: You’ve probably noticed differences between your relationships with different friends:
\nWith some you just know that if they’ve left you a voice message, you have to get back to them within a few hours (or days), otherwise they’ll be very hurt.\u00a0 If they don’t hear back from you — rather than trying you again, they’ll wait until you contact them.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 With others, even if it takes you a month to return their call, they’re not going to take personal offense or they’ll just keep trying until they reach you.<\/p>\n

You’ve also probably noticed that some friendships are very intense and close while other friends,
\nafter spending a lot of time together, will need their space and might disappear for a while.<\/p>\n

Some friends will tell you right off the bat if something is bothering them while others will just act cold or lay low until the storm blows over.<\/p>\n

All these aspects of friendship have to do with people’s attachment styles\u00a0 — and the combination of your friend’s attachment style and your own.<\/p>\n

By understanding your friends’ attachment styles you can gain better insight into why they act as they do and you can adjust your expectations accordingly.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Studies that have looked into attachment styles and friendship have made a variety of findings, for example: People with a secure attachment style are more likely to seek social support when they’re stressed; they also perceive themselves as having more available support.\u00a0 Avoidants, on the other hand, are more likely to distance themselves under stressful […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[20],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-187","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-reader-faq"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.attachedthebook.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/187","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.attachedthebook.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.attachedthebook.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.attachedthebook.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.attachedthebook.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=187"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.attachedthebook.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/187\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":189,"href":"https:\/\/www.attachedthebook.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/187\/revisions\/189"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.attachedthebook.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=187"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.attachedthebook.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=187"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.attachedthebook.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=187"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}