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Compatibility Quiz

Think about your current (or past) date or partner and answer the following questions with him/her in mind. Indicate the degree to which you agree with the statements below: (Note: all questions are required for an accurate result)
  1. They make you feel that you will never live up to their perfect relationship standards (or to an ideal "ex").
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  2. Game playing is out of the equation for this person.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  3. They say things like: "I need a lot of space" or "a relationship shouldn't constrict me."
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  4. Relationship issues are on the table—whether you raise them or they do
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  5. They express insecurities and worries about rejection.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  6. They make you feel uncomfortable when you want to talk about the relationship.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  7. Closeness creates further closeness—they don't get cold feet after you connect deeply on an emotional or physical level.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  8. They fear that small acts on their part will ruin the relationship
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  9. They say something intimate like "when we move in together...," then later acts as though you don't have a future as a couple.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  10. They act out when things go wrong in the relationship—and might threaten to leave but then changes their mind.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  11. They aren't afraid you or other partners are trying to trap him/her—into marriage, to get their money—or in any other way...
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  12. They make you feel that your wellbeing is your own responsibility (not theirs)
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  13. When they say they'll call—they do!
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  14. They want a lot of closeness in the relationship and often worries that there's not enough.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  15. They might be close at certain times but inevitably push you away.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  16. They are concerned that you may become interested in someone else or be unfaithful.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  17. They use the L word early and generously.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  18. They expect you to pick up from subtle cues what they want or needs and whether they are upset.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree