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Compatibility Quiz

Think about your current (or past) date or partner and answer the following questions with him/her in mind. Indicate the degree to which you agree with the statements below: (Note: all questions are required for an accurate result)
  1. S/He makes you feel that you will never live up to his/her perfect relationship standards (or to an ideal "ex").
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  2. Game playing is out of the equation for this person.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  3. S/He says things like: "I need a lot of space" or "a relationship shouldn't constrict me."
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  4. Relationship issues are on the table—whether you raise them or s/he does
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  5. S/He expresses insecurities and worries about rejection.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  6. S/He makes you feel uncomfortable when you want to talk about the relationship.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  7. Closeness creates further closeness—s/he doesn't get cold feet after you connect deeply on an emotional or physical level.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  8. S/He fears that small acts on his/her part will ruin the relationship
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  9. S/He says something intimate like "when we move in together...," then later acts as though you don't have a future as a couple.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  10. S/He acts out when things go wrong in the relationship—and might threaten to leave but then changes his/her mind.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  11. S/He isn't afraid you or other partners are trying to trap him/her—into marriage, to get his/her money—or in any other way...
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  12. S/He makes you feel that your wellbeing is your own responsibility (not his/hers)
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  13. When s/he says s/he'll call—s/he does!
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  14. S/He wants a lot of closeness in the relationship and often worries that there's not enough.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  15. S/He might be close at certain times but inevitably pushes you away.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  16. S/He is concerned that you may become interested in someone else or be unfaithful.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  17. S/He uses the L word early and generously.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  18. S/He expects you to pick up from subtle cues what s/he wants or needs and whether s/he is upset.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree