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Deciphering your own attachment style

Indicate the degree to which the following statements apply to you. When thinking about them, don't get stuck on just one relationship. Think about how you behave in romantic settings in general. (Note: all questions are required for an accurate result)
  1. It makes me nervous when my partner gets too close.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  2. I often worry that my partner will stop loving me.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  3. An argument with my partner doesn't usually cause me to question our entire relationship.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  4. When I show my partner how I feel, I'm afraid s/he will not feel the same about me.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  5. I find it difficult to emotionally support my partner when s/he is feeling down.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  6. I don't feel the need to act out much in my romantic relationships.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  7. I fear that once someone gets to know the real me, s/he won't like who I am.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  8. My independence is more important to me than my relationships.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  9. When my partner is upset I naturally know how to help him or her calm down.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  10. When I'm not involved in a relationship I feel somewhat anxious and incomplete.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  11. I hate feeling that other people depend on me.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  12. Sometimes people see me as boring because I create little drama in relationships.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  13. I miss my partner when we're apart but then when we're together I feel the need to escape.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  14. I have little difficulty expressing my needs and wants to my partner.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  15. If someone I've been dating begins to act cold and distant I'll worry that I've done something wrong.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  16. I find that I bounce back quickly after a breakup. It's weird how I can just put someone out of my mind.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  17. I worry that if my partner leaves me I might never find someone else.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree
  18. If someone I've been dating begins to act cold and distant I may wonder what's happened but I'll know it's probably not about me.
    Strongly agree
    Agree
    Neither agree or disagree
    Disagree
    Strongly disagree